The Unseen Element: A Guide to Body-Safe Lubricants & Cleaners

In BDSM, what you put on your gear and on your body is as important as the gear itself.

• Water-Based: The universal solvent. Safe for use with all materials, including silicone, latex, and all metals. It is the default, safest choice. Its only downside is that it dries out and may need reapplication.
• Silicone-Based: Extremely long-lasting and provides superior glide. Crucially, it must NEVER be used with silicone toys, as it will break down the material over time, creating a sticky, ruined surface. It is, however, excellent for use on skin and with non-silicone materials like steel, glass, or stone.
• Oil-Based: Includes natural oils (like coconut) or mineral oil. These are long-lasting but can break down latex (condoms, latex gear) and can be difficult to clean. Not generally recommended for internal use with toys.

Cleaning your instruments is non-negotiable. It is the final act of any scene.

• The Gold Standard: Use a dedicated toy cleaner specifically formulated for sex toys. These cleaners are effective at killing bacteria without using harsh chemicals that can degrade your gear. A simple spray-on, wipe-off application is sufficient for non-porous materials after washing with soap and water.
• The Alternative: Mild soap (like unscented antibacterial hand soap) and warm water are effective for most non-porous materials like steel and silicone
• The Hard Limit: Never use bleach, alcohol-based cleaners, or other harsh household chemicals on your toys. They will destroy the material and can transfer harmful residues to the body.

Proper care is an extension of consent. It is the silent promise that the explorations of tonight will not compromise the health of tomorrow.